Why my father wont talk to me?
Posted by admin in Question & Answers, tags: father, talk, wontSo get this. Its been a week now since my father and I talked. He has been angry for like a week now. I used his car a week ago and when I parked it a week ago and got out of it but as I was getting out of it and the plastic part on the side of the seat caught my leg(Why do they put them there anyways) and it scrapped me and was hanging on. So I removed the part being that it scratched my leg and I though oh well just remove it so its not a PIA for them when they drive it. He uses the car and flipps out on me. Now its been a week and he wont talk to me. Do keep in mind we live in the same house. Thank God its big so we dont need to run into each other all the time. Today I was in our cafe that we own and he comes in. Room full of people I go “Hi dad how are you” Not a single word from him. Im like WTF??? All this over removing a plastic side part on a friggen car? You cant be serious here? So tell me how I should fix this one.
- I took that plastic part of because it scratched my leg so I figure why not remove it before one of them get hurt
-Its a plastic part like a foot long. Why keep it there when it rattles, makes noise and people are always getting caught on it?
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Ignore him, he is being immature. It is only a car, you are way more important than any car. Give him time, he will come to his senses.
What your father is doing to you is just like what my mother does to me when she is mad at me. Your father IS being immature and will eventually grow up. My father is the same way about cars. If we even damage them, he cares more about the cost of fixing the car than our lives. It’s so ridiculous that my father puts money and material objects before his loved ones.
As for you, just ignore your father and act like he doesn’t exist. Better yet, act as if you don’t have a dad, and maybe then he’ll realize that he’s being a jerk and will realize that you are what matters more than that stupid car.
fix that plastic thing again into the car in the way…..it should scratch your father’s leg.
He should feel the same way you felt.Then only he can understand that its not at all your fault.
Iam not saying to hurt your father.Dont misunderstand.Do what I said.That’s the only way you have to fix.
Have you apologized him for doing something to his car without his permission? If no go and talk to him.
Don’t worry, he’ll get over it soon. It may not mean a lot to you, but it may have meant Alto to him, so perhaps you could go up to him and apologize, even if you don’t really mean it. If that doesn’t work, perhaps talking to someone else in your family about it, they may know what to do. If all else fails, just wait. He can’t stay angry with you forever.
Good luck!
Tell him that you are sorry for removing the piece and that if you knew removing it would cause him to not speak to you for god knows how long, that you certainly would not have done it. You did not know it was such a big deal, but now you do. But also say that it has been very startling to you that something like this has sent him into a situation where he thinks withholding attention is the answer and is appropriate. That his doing this has made you wonder what would happen if you had done something that you know wopuld be displeasing – what then? Complete withholding of all love and never speaking again? Why not just deal with it as adults. Or at least parent and child, not punisher and punishee. What are you to learn?? that he will not be kind to you if you do the slightest bothersome thing?
That is what you say.
Say it maybe in the morning after he has had some coffee. or at another time when it is not busy or he is not tired or distracted.
Tell him you are not made, just confused, hurt and a little frightened.
Let me tell you that if my kids came to me and said that, it would shock me back into reality. Say it calmly. Ask him to just listen to what you have to say and do not be snide. Just lay it out. If he remains silent, then he is a darn fool who cannot be reasoned with.
get the seat fixed and quit using his stuff
Offer or try to put it back on. If he doesn’t get over it, try and apologize. If he is still not over it then leave it alone and let time work it’s magic. He shouldn’t make such a big deal over something so little, it’s very childish of him.
I hope I could help.